April 4, 2013

• Soul ties and emotional dependency

  A soul tie is a spiritual connection between two people. It can be healthy or unhealthy. It can come about through a vow, through sex, or simply through close relationship.

  In a healthy soul tie or a healthy emotional connection, God comes first for both people. God is more important to me than the person I am in relationship with, and He is more important to them than I am. As a result the healthy soul tie or emotional connection is a source of blessing and encouragement. Each person finds completeness and contentment in their relationship with God, and freely shares out of that abundance with the other.

  An unhealthy soul tie or emotional dependency is a form of idolatry and addiction. The relationship with the other person or the desire to be with them has taken a place of authority that should only be God’s. Some symptoms of this are when the relationship is a source of emptiness, abuse,pain, and unfulfilled longing.

  A person with many unhealthy soul ties is a minefield of emotional complexity, but the really sad part is that the real person often stands paralyzed, buried underneath a web of conflicting emotional strings that pull them in different directions while others block their way.

  Because of His great love for us, God wants to be number one in every heart. He knows He is the only one who can hold that place of authority without abusing it, the only one who can free every true self to truly come out and live. And so while He is patient, and waits to be invited,He is eager to free us from soul ties and emotional dependencies. He is eager to take the number one place in our hearts and begin settings all things right.

  Breaking a soul tie or emotional dependency is a cooperative effort including the person with the soul tie, the person interviewing and praying for them, and God. The Holy Spirit leads the process, but here are somethings that often need to happen in case of a soul tie or emotional dependency:

  1. The person with the soul tie or dependency should:
  1. Repent of any sin such as extramarital sex that contributed to the soul tie
  2. Get rid of any objects that remind them of the soul tie, such as gifts
  3. Renounce any vows that led to or were part of the soul tie or emotional dependency, especially vows that gave someone else authority that should be God’s
  4. Forgive the other person! Unforgiveness is a powerful bondage.
  5. Renounce the soul tie, out loud, naming the person.
  2. The person praying for them should break the soul tie in Jesus name
  3. Both people should invite the Holy Spirit to flow in to that place, establishing it as God’s own forever.

   

   

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